What kind of attention do guys like

But, you can help your guy by keeping his feet firmly on the ground. When you call your guy out on his BS, you save him time and energy on something he never should have attempted in the first place. Value His Opinion Guys have opinions and they want to be heard. Guys want to feel as though they matter in this world, that their ideas are respected. Guys are programmed to need to feel respected in order to feel good about themselves.

When you show a guy that you value his opinion, he automatically thinks you respect him. When guys feel respected they feel valued, and the better a guy feels about himself the more energy and vitality he can bring to your relationship. It can be as simple as surprising him with tickets to an event, or a small gift. What if you were mysteriously unavailable for a short amount of time and played a little hard to get? Compliment His Style Guys have different styles.

Either way, all guys love it when they get compliments from their girl for making an effort to look good. Yes, you can and should give fashion tips, but remember that a guy wants to maintain his identity, too. One of the ways he does this is by wearing comfortable clothes he likes. So, the next time your guy comes over to your place with a haircut, freshly shaved, wearing a new coat, tell him how good he looks.

Appreciate His Efforts Sometimes logistics make relationships difficult. Another easy way to do this is to remember to say thank you for things like doors held open and restaurant checks taken care of—guys will notice. He may be the type to work the room, or he may be on the introverted side. Either way, he wants you to be with him.

I love all these articles and emails. It seems they are all directed at me personally. I have met a guy that seems to be a great match for me so far and as I have had many failed relationships, for the first time I am trying very hard to do this one right!

I read your emails and articles every day. Thank you. Way to stereotype and generalize your own gender, sir. Not all men are the same, behave the same, think the same, or want the same things in a relationship. I recently started dating after after a 14 year marriage ended. Blame the wiring in our brains , but what it boils down to is that we don't want to see our loved ones suffer. So if you just want to have us listen — and not do anything about the problem, or offer our opinions on how to fix it — then tell us that up front.

That way we'll know to keep our traps shut and arms open. Similar to why we're so damn honest, a good man demonstrates his commitment to you by showing up. So yes, it's more than a little irritating when you go on and on about the jerk who has mastered the art of ghosting , orbiting , or whatever new dating term kids are throwing around these days.

It's a vicious cycle — the more men feel those guys get the benefits of your time and attention, the more incentive we have to become those guys. And that's a lose-lose for everyone involved. Instead, smile when we aren't late to date night , or send us a text thanking us once we prove you can call at anytime.

Positive reinforcement, right? We acknowledge the importance of couple time. We'd even go so far as to say that, in the best relationships, showing your beau some form of love each day deepens and extends the partnership. But that doesn't mean we shouldn't spend time apart. Going on a hiking weekend with the boys does not diminish the bond we share, nor does taking a few hours to workout solo or visit a store we know you have zero interest in.

Just like women need alone time or girls night with their friends , guys need the companionship of other men or time to themselves.

This kind of separation will refresh our minds, give us stories to share, and bring us back to you with more spirit. While no fair-minded guy wants women to return to the life of a s sitcom, neither do we want the elimination of the feminine as a virtue.

So don't be ashamed to hold on to those things that make you different from us if they make you feel good. If they don't, then ditch 'em. We may not always say it, but it's beautiful — and much appreciated — how much you care about seeing flowers on the table, smelling nice , or cooking a delicious meal.

Unleash yourself. Express your fantasies. Use your hands. Suggest toys. Show us who's boss and give good directions. No matter how you slice it, we love when you take control behind closed doors. It's not surprising that men pay attention to this because it helps them imagine and process the mood of their partner which will help them and the future of their relationship.

Only the bravest among us are comfortable just showing their emotions and actually discussing their feelings. Most of us especially those of us that are accustomed to dropping hints try to do it without even making eye contact. Texting is a space where women can reveal their true feelings and are usually more sincere, and men know this.

That's why men try to decipher all the signs that they get in messages and track how often, why, and when women text them. Here's another interesting fact: Linguists say that the words that that we use tell a lot about our character. Frequent phrases like "I think, I feel" mean that a person is focused on themselves. If a person always tries to persuade you that they are sincere using "I bet, believe me," they may be lying.

It's easier to pick up on this while texting which is why people who are tuned in to this, successfully use this method to make judgments about the other person. White wine and seafood, gin and tonic with friends, red wine when stressed. Preferences in drinks, as well as in food and clothes, can tell a lot about a person.

Some men pay attention to this so that they will know what to order next and some men do it to find out the current mood of their loved one. Men also notice whether women drink because they enjoy the taste from time to time or whether they're addicted to it. Yes, men pay attention to clothes. They don't care about brands, the newest collection, or price tags. But they will always pay attention to a sense of elegance, style, and sexuality.

It's also possible to figure out a woman's attitude toward a particular guy based on how she's dressed: if she goes on a date in a gorgeous dress and with her hair done perfectly, she's probably very interested in the guy, but if she doesn't care and comes in her everyday outfit, it's probably a bad sign.

It's also important how confident she is.